O-L-B is annoying me from the periphery again. This is why you should never date anyone you meet on a political message board. I haven’t spoken to him in about 10 months (although he will still sometimes respond directly to one of my posts, which, WTF???) and I am definitely over him in the relationship/romantic whatever sense.

I guess I’m just annoyed by his general existence at this point. The things he posts are really patently ridiculous and I don’t agree with much of it but I also recognize that the reason it annoys me so much is because I am shallowly letting my personal feelings/opinion of him creep in. (Or maybe his posts really ARE that stupid)

This guy also posts about the drama of his love life on the message board ALL THE FREAKING TIME. On a message board that he knows a girl he used to date (me) will read.

Now, this is a small, close knit political message board. Most of us have been posting on it for years. So in addition to our politcal-y, current events threads we have plenty of non-politics related things for complaints about work, silly links, etc. There is of course a thread called “Love Stinks.” Now, again, it’s a close knit board and I know some people (myself included) feel comfortable sharing personal stuff of all types there. Had I not dated OLB, I would have no problem posting about a date I went on and asking for advice/opinion on something.

However, because I dated OLB, I don’t. He does. Since we stopped seeing each other, the Love thread has been turned into OLB’s personal soap opera. He’s had a couple girlfriends over the past year and we got to hear all about how hot they were and how in love he was and how wonderful it was. And then we got to hear the drama of it ending. And now we get to hear about his “crazy” exes (given how he treated me, I would be willing to give these women the benefit of the doubt) and the new, hot, younger women he’s going on dates with.

Now, other people do post about their love lives, but not with the frequency or to the extent that he does. I really don’t know if I’m wrong in thinking that it’s a bit of a jackass move to post all about your love life in a place where you know a girl you dated and hurt quite badly, is going to read it. I always wonder if he is doing it specifically BECAUSE he knows I’ll read it, but let’s not give myself too much credit.

His posts about other girls no longer hurt me but they do irritate me. He’s always talking about his “crazy” ex and of course making himself seem blameless in the situation, and saying things like “all these women have accused me of being manipulative/a horrible person/etc, they’re crazy!”

Now, when OLB and I were seeing each other, I was no prize. It was a very bad, very dark time in my life. We were never serious, and we didn’t see each other frequently, but he did witness my erratic behavior a couple times. I fully take responsibility for my actions and know that I did some stupid things. However, the other person being “crazy” or “unstable” is no excuse for acting like a jerk. Which he did. And I’m sure he continues to do.

And then he posts about it on a message board, that he knows I read. And of course, standard disclaimer that it’s a message board, and for Christ’s sakes I just wrote an entire post about this and how silly, and of course he has the RIGHT to post whatever the hell he wants, but it is in poor taste, no?

 I’m just venting. Oh, and leaving the message board is not an option. This is just a vent, and it does not detract from my overall enjoyment of the message board, the discussions, and the people there (some of whom have become close friends IRL) but it is just frustrating to constantly hear about his love life and that his references to his girlfriends/exes spill over into seemingly every thread.

And then I really do feel crazy (as he labels me among his crazy exes) because here I am writing a blog post about internal drama over a guy I used to date who I met on a message board.