I thought I might be over sensitive, but this was actually a kind of not-nice thing to do.

OLB wrote: [on a public message board. that he knows I read, and thus knew I would read this]
There’s this girl I know, and a while back I thought we might have something going – she’s pretty, she’s smart, she seemed into me – but then when we hung out a bit more, something just didn’t quite click. Oh well…it’s too bad, but you can’t obsess over these things, because that way lies stalkerville.

Which is fairly neutral (even though “smart” and “pretty” are basically the most impersonal words you can use to describe someone, and yes that’s how he described me, further proving that he was Just Not That Into Me, but I knew that) but it still stung to read, and he ALSO knows about the other stuff going on that may make me even more sensitive, so why would he post this? What was the motivation? I love “wise” posts like this. It shifts the blame. “Didn’t quite click” makes it sound like as if I disappointed him rather than “well i was coming off a 10 year relationship and didn’t really feel like investing anything.

But I wanted to check with the ever-reliable David if I was the one in the wrong. But he agreed that the post was definitely a dick move, and also wondered “WTF?”

Yeah. WTF?

This is what I get for dating in the Internet age.